A Free Chance to Fail that everyone dreaming for.

We can not deny that sometimes when it comes to facing challenges in our life, we always seek emotional support where we can ask for help or even just to make us feel safe. It can be from our parents, girlfriend/boyfriend, best friend, mentor, leaders, team members, and anyone that you think is making a significant impact on your life.

Living as ENTJ-A, I enjoy getting through challenges. I know it is hard but I seek it anyway. I enjoy seeing myself accomplish those challenges with a lot of trials. But, I have to be honest that I also have a hard time facing failure when getting through that challenge.

What did I do?

1. Think

As a thinker, it helps me to make myself being able to emphasize the issues that I currently facing. Therefore, I always try to understand why I should take care of that problem. In the end, the choice that I made always comes from the reason that I cope during my thinking process.

2. Depressing myself

I don’t know. But, I think that until this time I can not avoid this condition where I will feel the burden of emphasizing every problem that I have. What did I do, I embrace it anyway. Sometimes I listen to sad songs, sometimes I watch sad movies so that I can cry, sometimes I talk to my surrounding randomly to address my feeling.

3. Choosing the right Mindset

This one is the most important part. As a strategic thinker, I tend to have this principle where I might ask for your opinion in solving my problem, but in the end, I won’t use that to solve it. Talking with others helps me to generate more ideas that come to my mind not like implementing the same exact solution proposed by the people I talked to. So, what is the mindset? It depends on how you deal with others’ opinions. For me, I always ended up choosing the mindset where “I might fail on trying my own solution, but after all, I failed beautifully and no one or no future can judge me. Instead, I am creating my beautiful story in the future.”

4. Try

Remember that you have this “free pass of failing”. Use it. Make it worth it. But also remember, when you realized that you might fail… Don’t fail too deep. Fail with manner, LoL. Remember that it is better to try it first rather than having a never-ending dilemma of what comes next in your decision.

5. Repeat

When you fail, it means you are having another problem. Therefore, think again and repeat the same path you have been through before.

“Sometimes, what we really need in life is a free chance to fail without having any judgment from our future. Because when you succeed, you create your future. When you failed, you create your future as well. After all, that’s a good journey”

• Demi, 2022

In the end, I hope we always succeed in finding the best life lessons based on the version we aim to have.